The Surprising Way Keeping A Secret Harms Your Mental Health (& What To Do About It)

One of the first questions I ask when I begin working with a new client is “What are your gifts?” A long – very long – silence usually follows.

From my years of coaching I’ve noticed that the word “gift” tends to be synonymous with “being good at” something. And being “good at something” tends to mean, for most people, that they are an expert in the field, or wildly successful at this one thing.

If you do certain things better than most people, if certain things come easier to you than to others, if you enjoy doing something so that time seems to vanish when you sit down to do it – that’s usually a gift. It really has nothing to do with how “good” you are at it. And if you have a gift, no matter how big or how small, you have a responsibility to use it.

So...what's your gift? 🎁

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It is the beginning of OCTOBER - FALL is in the air and in our Starbucks cups!

This also means it’s time for First Wednesday! 🎉

During our upcoming FREE Coaching for Coaches community call, we'll be joined by Executive Coach, Performance Strategist, Advisor, and Consultant, and my mentee, Marissa Fernandez @marissalfernandez1.

In the early days of Marissa’s business, she thought she knew what she needed to become a successful coach: a website, a niche, a unique methodology, sales strategies to close clients, a brand/logo, a CRM system...Turns out, she didn't really need any of those things.

She discovered that what she really needed to build a thriving business was to examine and change her "lenses" - the beliefs and stories that shaped her feelings, actions and results.

In this session, Marissa will be sharing the top 10 lenses she uncovered around themes of money, selling, self-worth, and creativity. She’ll discuss how they were holding her back, and how she (with the help of coaching) was able to shift them into new, empowering beliefs.

As a result of these internal shifts, Marissa has been able to create a multi-six-figure practice in less than two years!

👉 Do you have limiting beliefs that are preventing you from taking bold action in your business?

👉 Have you inherited "rules" from your family, or society, that maybe used to serve you, but no longer do, as you think about building your coaching business?

👉 Are the voices in your head of fear and self-doubt standing in the way of the business and life you want?

If you answered yes to any of these, then this First Wednesday call is for you!

Join her on October 5th from 5pm to 6pm PT in the Coaching for Coaches Facebook group. (Link in BIO if you haven't joined yet!)

Note: Replays of First Wednesdays are uploaded to the Gretchen Hydo International YouTube Channel as a public video without edits. Make sure to hit subscribe while you’re there!

Don’t forget to bring a coach friend or colleague, the more the merrier!

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Here's a tool to help you grow. ⬇️

Write a list of three people you admire and why.

It can be people you know, celebrities, characters in books - anyone you admire.

Write down their admirable qualities. 📝

When you are done, at the top of your paper, write this sentence, "The me I see in them is..." and relook at your list.

Most of the qualities we see in others, we have in ourselves, or are working on ushering in.

So, when you admire someone else, it is probably a quality that you also admire about yourself.

That's powerful. ✨

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Dating, aging, and dieting are NOT the problem. 🚫

We can slather wrinkle cream on those lines for eternity, keep swiping right, or punish ourselves for eating the pan of brownies. BUT, our secrets are the true catalyst to our demise.

Secret-keeping is a vicious cycle that entraps every woman. The answer is not a shopping spree at Macy's or a bottle of wine. The answer is to let go of our secrets and shed the weight off our souls by unwiring and understanding their origin.

The secret cycle begins with us taking unsavory actions to get our very basic needs met and causes us to ignore who we are and what's true for us to survive.

We, then, carry little secrets of shame to mask the big secret. While we can't blame our childhood for our behavior, we can study it to identify how we've arrived at this exact moment that we're in. When we do, we'll find little treasure chests along the way that have set the groundwork for secret-keeping.

Are you ready to put your long-term secrets in the grave once and for all? 🪦

Join my FREE community for women ready to break the rules, shed their secrets, and change their lives, through the link in BIO. 👆

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