The night my brother was born I was four years old and I asked my mom a question that landed in the wrong category in our house.

In my family there were good questions, bad questions, and stupid questions. I filed that away without realizing it. Nobody told me to be quiet. Somewhere in me I learned it was not safe to not know something, and I stopped asking.

That rule had nothing to do with me. It came from generations back, from my grandparents, for reasons that made complete sense in their time and their context. And it ran my life anyway for decades.

Here is what I know about the image most of us are leading with. A lot of it has a start date. A moment, a room, a person, a season that taught us something about what was safe to show and what needed to stay hidden. We learn those rules so early that we often don’t realize we’re still carrying them into our relationships, our work, and our leadership years later.

And we have been leading from it ever since.

If the image you are putting into the world right now feels more like protection than truth, there is probably a start date on it too. Finding it is some of what we do inside Own Your Image on November 6. Tap the link in my bio and choose “Own Your Image Workshop: Nov 6.”

#shefirst #womeninleadership #selfleadership #coachapproachtoleadership #personalgrowth #shefirstworkshop

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The night my brother was born I was four years old and I asked my mom a question that landed in the wrong category in our house.

In my family there were good questions, bad questions, and stupid questions. I filed that away without realizing it. Nobody told me to be quiet. Somewhere in me I learned it was not safe to not know something, and I stopped asking.

That rule had nothing to do with me. It came from generations back, from my grandparents, for reasons that made complete sense in their time and their context. And it ran my life anyway for decades.

Here is what I know about the image most of us are leading with. A lot of it has a start date. A moment, a room, a person, a season that taught us something about what was safe to show and what needed to stay hidden. We learn those rules so early that we often don’t realize we’re still carrying them into our relationships, our work, and our leadership years later.

And we have been leading from it ever since.

If the image you are putting into the world right now feels more like protection than truth, there is probably a start date on it too. Finding it is some of what we do inside Own Your Image on November 6. Tap the link in my bio and choose “Own Your Image Workshop: Nov 6.”

#shefirst #womeninleadership #selfleadership #coachapproachtoleadership #personalgrowth #shefirstworkshop

Last month something serious happened with someone I love.

Protecting myself meant making a decision that would change the relationship, maybe permanently. They made clear what that decision would cost us.

And as I sat with it, I realized the real reckoning was not with them. It was with me.

Because if the truest version of who I am was who I had been showing up as with this person, that decision would not have been on the table. Somewhere along the way, there had become a gap between the woman I knew myself to be and the version of myself I was bringing into this relationship.

When I finally made the decision I knew was right, this person said, "Let me meet you where you are. You have done more than your share."

That moment has stayed with me.

Owning your image isn`t about performance or creating a version of yourself for other people. It`s about closing the distance between who you know yourself to be and how you`re actually showing up in your relationships, your leadership, and the choices you make every day.

This month in SheFirst, I`m sharing more about what happened, the steps I took, the fear underneath it, and the questions that helped me get clear about what belonged to me.

If this conversation is where you are right now, I hope you`ll read it. Tap the Link in my bio to read the my latest blog.

And if you`re ready to take this work even deeper, Own Your Image, the final SheFirst workshop of 2026, is happening November 6. I`d love to have you in the room.

#womeninleadership #shefirst #selfleadership #coachapproachtoleadership #personalgrowth #executivepresence

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Last month something serious happened with someone I love.

Protecting myself meant making a decision that would change the relationship, maybe permanently. They made clear what that decision would cost us.

And as I sat with it, I realized the real reckoning was not with them. It was with me.

Because if the truest version of who I am was who I had been showing up as with this person, that decision would not have been on the table. Somewhere along the way, there had become a gap between the woman I knew myself to be and the version of myself I was bringing into this relationship.

When I finally made the decision I knew was right, this person said, "Let me meet you where you are. You have done more than your share."

That moment has stayed with me.

Owning your image isn't about performance or creating a version of yourself for other people. It's about closing the distance between who you know yourself to be and how you're actually showing up in your relationships, your leadership, and the choices you make every day.

This month in SheFirst, I'm sharing more about what happened, the steps I took, the fear underneath it, and the questions that helped me get clear about what belonged to me.

If this conversation is where you are right now, I hope you'll read it. Tap the Link in my bio to read the my latest blog.

And if you're ready to take this work even deeper, Own Your Image, the final SheFirst workshop of 2026, is happening November 6. I'd love to have you in the room.

#womeninleadership #shefirst #selfleadership #coachapproachtoleadership #personalgrowth #executivepresence

There is something different about a woman who knows who she is.

It doesn`t mean she walks into every room with complete confidence or never second-guesses herself. It doesn`t mean she always knows exactly what to say or makes every decision without hesitation.

It means she has gotten clear enough about herself that she has something to come back to.

She knows what matters to her. She knows what she brings to the table. She knows what she wants to be known for and how she wants people to experience her. And when something happens that shakes her confidence or makes her question herself, she can come back to those things instead of letting the moment define her.

I think that`s an important distinction because owning your image isn`t about creating some perfectly polished version of yourself for the world to see. It`s actually the opposite.

It`s knowing yourself well enough that you don`t have to work so hard to manage how everyone else sees you.

You can walk into the room and contribute without wondering whether you belong there. You can communicate what you need without rehearsing it ten different ways first. You can make a decision that feels right for you even when someone else might have made a different one. And you can allow people to experience more of who you actually are.

That`s the kind of confidence I`m interested in.

Not louder, not tougher, not more impressive but clearer.

That`s what we`re going to work on together inside Own Your Image on November 6. If you`re ready to get clearer about who you are, what you want to be known for, and how you want to carry that into 2027, I`d love to have you in the room. Tap the link in my bio and choose “Own Your Image Workshop: Nov 6.”

#shefirst #womeninleadership #selfleadership #coachapproachtoleadership #executivepresence #leadershipdevelopment

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There is something different about a woman who knows who she is.

It doesn't mean she walks into every room with complete confidence or never second-guesses herself. It doesn't mean she always knows exactly what to say or makes every decision without hesitation.

It means she has gotten clear enough about herself that she has something to come back to.

She knows what matters to her. She knows what she brings to the table. She knows what she wants to be known for and how she wants people to experience her. And when something happens that shakes her confidence or makes her question herself, she can come back to those things instead of letting the moment define her.

I think that's an important distinction because owning your image isn't about creating some perfectly polished version of yourself for the world to see. It's actually the opposite.

It's knowing yourself well enough that you don't have to work so hard to manage how everyone else sees you.

You can walk into the room and contribute without wondering whether you belong there. You can communicate what you need without rehearsing it ten different ways first. You can make a decision that feels right for you even when someone else might have made a different one. And you can allow people to experience more of who you actually are.

That's the kind of confidence I'm interested in.

Not louder, not tougher, not more impressive but clearer.

That's what we're going to work on together inside Own Your Image on November 6. If you're ready to get clearer about who you are, what you want to be known for, and how you want to carry that into 2027, I'd love to have you in the room. Tap the link in my bio and choose “Own Your Image Workshop: Nov 6.”

#shefirst #womeninleadership #selfleadership #coachapproachtoleadership #executivepresence #leadershipdevelopment

I’ve been paying attention lately to the words I use when I talk about myself.

I mean the words I say to myself when nobody else is listening, because those words have a way of influencing how I walk into a room, make a decision, handle something difficult, or decide what’s possible for me.

I’ve been sitting with a few “I Am” statements of my own lately:

I am infectious.
I am charming.
I am winning.
I am a champion.
I am masterful.
I will not let someone else define my life.
I am taking full ownership of the results I experience.

The way we see ourselves matters. If I continually tell myself that I’m uncertain, behind, or not ready, I’m going to carry that version of myself into the choices I make. But I can also become more intentional about the words I choose and the version of myself I want to reinforce.

So I’m curious: What is one “I Am” statement you want to carry with you right now?

Maybe it’s “I am capable.” “I am ready.” “I am creative.” “I am a leader.” “I am allowed to take up space.”

Pick one that feels like you, or maybe one you’re still learning to believe. Say it out loud and then share it with me in the comments. I want to hear yours.

This is also part of what we’ll explore together inside Own Your Image on November 6. We’re going to look at the image you hold of yourself and become more intentional about making sure the woman you know yourself to be is the woman you’re bringing into your leadership, relationships, and life.

If you’re ready for that conversation, I’d love to have you join us. Tap the link in my bio and choose “Own Your Image Workshop: Nov 6.”

#shefirst #womeninleadership #selfleadership #coachapproachtoleadership #personalgrowth #shefirstworkshop

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I’ve been paying attention lately to the words I use when I talk about myself.

I mean the words I say to myself when nobody else is listening, because those words have a way of influencing how I walk into a room, make a decision, handle something difficult, or decide what’s possible for me.

I’ve been sitting with a few “I Am” statements of my own lately:

I am infectious.
I am charming.
I am winning.
I am a champion.
I am masterful.
I will not let someone else define my life.
I am taking full ownership of the results I experience.

The way we see ourselves matters. If I continually tell myself that I’m uncertain, behind, or not ready, I’m going to carry that version of myself into the choices I make. But I can also become more intentional about the words I choose and the version of myself I want to reinforce.

So I’m curious: What is one “I Am” statement you want to carry with you right now?

Maybe it’s “I am capable.” “I am ready.” “I am creative.” “I am a leader.” “I am allowed to take up space.”

Pick one that feels like you, or maybe one you’re still learning to believe. Say it out loud and then share it with me in the comments. I want to hear yours.

This is also part of what we’ll explore together inside Own Your Image on November 6. We’re going to look at the image you hold of yourself and become more intentional about making sure the woman you know yourself to be is the woman you’re bringing into your leadership, relationships, and life.

If you’re ready for that conversation, I’d love to have you join us. Tap the link in my bio and choose “Own Your Image Workshop: Nov 6.”

#shefirst #womeninleadership #selfleadership #coachapproachtoleadership #personalgrowth #shefirstworkshop

I had a situation in my own life where I spent a long time focused on what I wished the other person would do differently.

Eventually, I had to ask myself a much harder and much more useful question: What part of this belongs to me?

The honest answer was my own choices. The times I said yes when I really wanted to say no. The conversations I avoided because I didn’t want to create tension. The boundaries I hoped someone would somehow understand without me ever clearly communicating them.

That question changed the way I looked at the entire situation.

Ownership is about recognizing where you still have choice. Once I stopped focusing only on what I wished someone else would change, I could get much clearer about what I wanted to do differently myself.

Leadership works the same way.

The way people experience your time, your standards, your boundaries, and your expectations is shaped through the everyday interactions you have with them. It’s in the deadline you decide to address instead of letting it pass. It’s in the conversation you choose to have instead of hoping something changes on its own. It’s in being clear about what matters to you and giving other people the opportunity to meet you there.

Those moments may seem small, but together they communicate a lot about who you are and how you want to lead.

That’s what ownership gives us: clarity about the choices that are ours to make.

This is a big part of the work we’re going to explore inside Own Your Image on November 6. We’re going to look at how you see yourself, how others experience you, and how you can become more intentional about making sure those two things reflect the woman you know yourself to be.

If that sounds like a conversation you’re ready for, I’d love to have you in the room. Tap the link in my bio and choose “Own Your Image Workshop: Nov 6.”

#shefirst #womeninleadership #selfleadership #coachapproachtoleadership #executivepresence #personalgrowth

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I had a situation in my own life where I spent a long time focused on what I wished the other person would do differently.

Eventually, I had to ask myself a much harder and much more useful question: What part of this belongs to me?

The honest answer was my own choices. The times I said yes when I really wanted to say no. The conversations I avoided because I didn’t want to create tension. The boundaries I hoped someone would somehow understand without me ever clearly communicating them.

That question changed the way I looked at the entire situation.

Ownership is about recognizing where you still have choice. Once I stopped focusing only on what I wished someone else would change, I could get much clearer about what I wanted to do differently myself.

Leadership works the same way.

The way people experience your time, your standards, your boundaries, and your expectations is shaped through the everyday interactions you have with them. It’s in the deadline you decide to address instead of letting it pass. It’s in the conversation you choose to have instead of hoping something changes on its own. It’s in being clear about what matters to you and giving other people the opportunity to meet you there.

Those moments may seem small, but together they communicate a lot about who you are and how you want to lead.

That’s what ownership gives us: clarity about the choices that are ours to make.

This is a big part of the work we’re going to explore inside Own Your Image on November 6. We’re going to look at how you see yourself, how others experience you, and how you can become more intentional about making sure those two things reflect the woman you know yourself to be.

If that sounds like a conversation you’re ready for, I’d love to have you in the room. Tap the link in my bio and choose “Own Your Image Workshop: Nov 6.”

#shefirst #womeninleadership #selfleadership #coachapproachtoleadership #executivepresence #personalgrowth

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