Imperfections. We pull them out of our toolbox quicker than a cowboy drawing a pistol. They are hard-wired and at the ready, waiting for an opportunity to be put on display. While these imperfections often protect us, aid us, and give us bravado, they also unfortunately undermine who we are at our core and who we’re meant to be in the world.
Underneath each imperfection is an attribute waiting to be discovered. Your knee jerk reaction is an impulse that, with time and practice, could become an old behavior. It all starts with a decision to try a contrary action. It will not feel comfortable. It will be hard. But the benefits far outweigh the discomfort of change.
Making a decision, taking action, and being committed and mindful to the change will create new behavior. And when you create new behavior, your thoughts will follow and so will the interactions in your life. Not only will your view the world transform, but so will your view of yourself. What was once a knee jerk reaction will soon feel as uncomfortable and constricting as a pair of jeans that are too tight.
Here are the most common imperfections and their hidden attributes:
- Anger/Self-Control, Peace
- Sarcasm/Uncritical, Respectful
- Critical/Non-Judgmental, Praising, Tolerant
- Lying/Honest
- Self Pity/Grateful, Accepting
- Perfectionist/Realistic Expectations
- Gossip/Closed-Mouth, Kind, Praise
- Pessimistic/Optimistic, Hopeful
- Withdrawn/Warm
- Fearful/Courageous
This week, identify the top three imperfections that you struggle with and focus on the corresponding attributes. If you need help identifying what the attribute would be, look the imperfection up in the dictionary and find its antonym. Write each attribute on an individual sticky note or piece of paper and choose one to focus on each day. Carry it in your pocket, post it on your computer or mirror, and set the intention to actively choose the attribute over the imperfection. If you find yourself doing your knee jerk behavior, you can stop mid way and apply the attribute. With a bit of persistence and a willingness to change, you will find that soon enough your knee jerk reaction will not be the first tool in the toolbox that you reach for.
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