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Break the rules, shed your secrets, change your life

This life-altering book shares the 10-Stage Secret-Breaking System that will help you break free from the rules and beliefs that hold you back and handcuff you to living safe and small at work and in life. And, take the work deeper with the companion workbook: Tell Your Secret.

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Renowned author and coach Gretchen Hydo shares her brilliant 10-Stage Secret-Breaking System to pull back the curtain, champion women to stop hiding behind their big secrets, step out of shame, and come into the light. Women from around the world fearlessly share their secrets within these pages to free themselves and others from the shackles that bind them. Unafraid to share her own secrets, Hydo’s teachings, exercises, and lessons urge us toward the ultimate goal – a life of truth lived in our fullest power. It’s time we take charge of a life beyond our wildest imaginings. Break Free from Your Dirty Little Secrets: A New You in 10 Secret-Breaking Stages is a breath of fresh air, and a much-needed beacon for women everywhere. It is the female guidebook for the next era, and the key to health, wealth, and a newfound love affair… with yourself.
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Secrets deliver a one-two-three punch

First is the “shameful” action you took that you are keeping secret because you think it goes against the ‘rules’ you are supposed to live by;

then there’s the false story you’ve been telling yourself about that action usually this goes something like “I’m a bad person because of my secret”;

and finally, today you are seeing the results of living a life that’s been built around this lie, this false identity.

Secrets gather momentum and create false narratives that turn into the lies we women believe about ourselves and cause us to become physically, emotionally, and spiritually sick. It’s time to live a new way!
Written by:
Gretchen Hydo
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I’ve bashed people behind their back for being on antidepressants, telling others that it’s a cop-out and that they should pull up their sleeves and work on themselves. The truth is, I’m on an antidepressant and felt ashamed that I had to take it. I felt like I was weak and defective because of it. After using the 10-Stage Secret-Breaking System, I share my experience with other women who feel ashamed about taking medication. And today, I congratulate myself for taking care of my mental health.
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Shirley, Secret-Breaker
Why do we need a 10-Stage System to do all this?
Because whether small, silly, or serious, we’ve all been conditioned to play by the rules and hide our secrets. The 10-Stage Secret-Breaking System will give you the tools and exercises needed to reveal your internal programming, the way you respond to life and the why behind it, as well as the coping mechanisms you use to feel safe and seen. Our dirty little secrets are serious business because they have tentacles that keep our entire lives small.
Curious about secrets that I have heard from hundreds of women in my professional and personal life as a Master Certified Coach, trainer and mentor? Here are a few:
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  • Hooked up with the UPS guy in the storage closet at work.
  • Made up employment or degree on a resume.
  • Secret crush on the boss.
  • Embezzled money from the workplace.
  • Lied so that someone wouldn’t be mad.
  • The threesome.
  • The drunk night in jail.
...and on and on and on.
I’m terrified of not being accepted by others. My secret behavior is that I people-please and say yes when I mean no. I over commit and resent others and avoid my own wants and desires to play by the rules. This played out in a big way with my husband. I wanted to adopt a baby and he didn’t. I went along with it and people pleased knowing that the baby meant everything to me. After doing the Ten-Stage Secret-Breaking System, I got a voice and we adopted our beautiful baby girl. That never would have happened if I didn’t learn to live by my own rules.
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Becca, Secret-Breaker

Are you ready to courageously create change in your life?
Break free now by joining us on this secret breaking journey.

We’re currently taking applications for a
one-of-a-kind experience starting October 2023.
Join us for the exclusive 10 Step Secret Breaking Intensive: a six-month journey into secret-shedding, rule-busting and breaking free of your false self and creating a new badass you. Limited to 12 remarkable women.
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Consistency is essential for building a successful coaching practice.⁠
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Just like you won`t see results from the gym with sporadic visits, the same applies to client creation. 💪⁠
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It’s not about doing everything all the time; it’s about doing the right things regularly.⁠
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Regular, deliberate actions ensure a steady flow of potential clients, keeping your business growing. 🌱⁠
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Consistency is essential for building a successful coaching practice.⁠ ⁠ Just like you won't see results from the gym with sporadic visits, the same applies to client creation. 💪⁠ ⁠ It’s not about doing everything all the time; it’s about doing the right things regularly.⁠ ⁠ Regular, deliberate actions ensure a steady flow of potential clients, keeping your business growing. 🌱⁠ ⁠ How do you embed consistency into your client creation routine? 👇⁠ ⁠ #dailyroutines #lifebalance #networkingtips #growyourbusiness #goalplanning

When you’re trying to win over new clients, it’s important to be transparent, come from a place of service, and build trust with them. 🤝

Use these tips to show that your coaching is worth the investment!

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When you’re trying to win over new clients, it’s important to be transparent, come from a place of service, and build trust with them. 🤝 Use these tips to show that your coaching is worth the investment! What other methods do you use to win over uncertain clients? Leave your tips in the comments! ⬇️ #authenticity #personalbrand #vulnerability #clientrelations #growyourbusiness

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself: What am I protecting? 🤔⁠
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There’s a part of us that believes if we keep certain truths hidden—about who we are, what we’ve done, or how we feel—we’re somehow safer.⁠
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We think it shields us from judgment, rejection, or loss. 😔⁠
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But is that really true?⁠
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What often feels like protection is actually something much more limiting: a false sense of safety. The very secrets we keep to protect ourselves from harm end up building walls that cut us off from the deeper connection, freedom, and authenticity we crave.⁠
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And here’s what you may not have realized: Secrets don’t just keep you from others, they keep you from yourself. 🔒⁠
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They encourage us to build a false identity, one that is constantly managed and controlled.⁠
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What’s even more heartbreaking is how this impacts our relationships. The walls we build to protect ourselves also keep others at arm’s length.⁠
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Genuine connection requires vulnerability. 🫂⁠
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Real safety doesn’t come from hiding. It comes from being fully seen.⁠
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The very thing you think you’re protecting yourself from (rejection, judgment, failure…) is actually the thing holding you back from the life you truly want.⁠
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So, my friend, what are your secrets costing you? And how much more alive, connected, and free could you be if you let them go? 🕊️⁠
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Have you ever stopped to ask yourself: What am I protecting? 🤔⁠ ⁠ There’s a part of us that believes if we keep certain truths hidden—about who we are, what we’ve done, or how we feel—we’re somehow safer.⁠ ⁠ We think it shields us from judgment, rejection, or loss. 😔⁠ ⁠ But is that really true?⁠ ⁠ What often feels like protection is actually something much more limiting: a false sense of safety. The very secrets we keep to protect ourselves from harm end up building walls that cut us off from the deeper connection, freedom, and authenticity we crave.⁠ ⁠ And here’s what you may not have realized: Secrets don’t just keep you from others, they keep you from yourself. 🔒⁠ ⁠ They encourage us to build a false identity, one that is constantly managed and controlled.⁠ ⁠ What’s even more heartbreaking is how this impacts our relationships. The walls we build to protect ourselves also keep others at arm’s length.⁠ ⁠ Genuine connection requires vulnerability. 🫂⁠ ⁠ Real safety doesn’t come from hiding. It comes from being fully seen.⁠ ⁠ The very thing you think you’re protecting yourself from (rejection, judgment, failure…) is actually the thing holding you back from the life you truly want.⁠ ⁠ So, my friend, what are your secrets costing you? And how much more alive, connected, and free could you be if you let them go? 🕊️⁠ ⁠ #rejection #falseself #beboldbeyou #vulnerabilityisstrength #emotionalgrowth #personalgrowthjourney #authenticityjourney

It won’t be easy…⁠
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But it will be SO worth it.⁠
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Stairway to Six is an intense business accelerator, meant to take you to your edge and push your limits. 🧗‍♀️⁠
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But it`s the best way to learn successful methods from an experienced multiple six-figure coach, alongside other like-minded coaches.⁠
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So what’s included in this business-boosting program for coaches, you ask?⁠
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⭐️ Direct access to me during five full-day sessions⁠
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⭐️ Two First Wednesday community events⁠
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⭐️ A private Facebook community for your cohort⁠
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All of these are intentionally designed to take each lesson deeper and create actionable plans.⁠
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Applications are OPEN for the Winter 2025 cohort. 🤝⁠
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Space is limited…apply now! (link in bio)⁠
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It won’t be easy…⁠ ⁠ But it will be SO worth it.⁠ ⁠ Stairway to Six is an intense business accelerator, meant to take you to your edge and push your limits. 🧗‍♀️⁠ ⁠ But it's the best way to learn successful methods from an experienced multiple six-figure coach, alongside other like-minded coaches.⁠ ⁠ So what’s included in this business-boosting program for coaches, you ask?⁠ ⁠ ⭐️ Direct access to me during five full-day sessions⁠ ⁠ ⭐️ Two First Wednesday community events⁠ ⁠ ⭐️ A private Facebook community for your cohort⁠ ⁠ All of these are intentionally designed to take each lesson deeper and create actionable plans.⁠ ⁠ Applications are OPEN for the Winter 2025 cohort. 🤝⁠ ⁠ Space is limited…apply now! (link in bio)⁠ ⁠ #businessplanning #growyourbusiness #goalplanning #coachtraining #networkingtips

Your pricing should not be based on your self-esteem…

You are worth more than any 💰 amount!

Pricing should reflect the transformation you offer, the expertise you bring, and the impact you make on your clients’ lives—not how you feel about yourself on any given day.

When you set your rates:

💡 Focus on the results your clients achieve through your coaching.

💡 Remember the time and energy you’ve invested in honing your craft.

💡 Don’t forget the ripple effect of the work you do—how it touches not just your clients, but their communities and workplaces too.

Pricing isn’t about proving your value; it’s about honoring it. You’re not just selling coaching sessions—you’re offering life-changing results.

So, let’s drop the self-doubt and charge what your work is truly worth. ✨

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Your pricing should not be based on your self-esteem… You are worth more than any 💰 amount! Pricing should reflect the transformation you offer, the expertise you bring, and the impact you make on your clients’ lives—not how you feel about yourself on any given day. When you set your rates: 💡 Focus on the results your clients achieve through your coaching. 💡 Remember the time and energy you’ve invested in honing your craft. 💡 Don’t forget the ripple effect of the work you do—how it touches not just your clients, but their communities and workplaces too. Pricing isn’t about proving your value; it’s about honoring it. You’re not just selling coaching sessions—you’re offering life-changing results. So, let’s drop the self-doubt and charge what your work is truly worth. ✨ #businesscoachingforwomen #lifecoachingtips #purposefulliving #buildclientele #successformula
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